Sometimes how we see others is not an even perception because we do not know the backdrop of their days.

We’re not aware of what presents itself when they’re not around us nor do we see the behavior attached to their absence. We all can indeed put our best foot forward when we’re around others, but when the curtains go down and no one is around is when we’re revealed. When we need it most, may we have the heart and mind that discerns the difference in perceptions in our own lives. Then, we are able to do some soul searching, which opens the doorway for God to create in us a clean heart and renew a right spirit within us.

Some time ago, an acquaintance asked me to pray for him because he and his wife were separated. It floored me because each time I’d seen them, they looked as though they were happily married. Then it caused me to really reflect on life. It was mind-blowing to me because I only saw what they showed me. Because I did not know what went on when they weren’t in my presence, it caused me to become more aware. People wear two shoes, I thought, and sometimes the other one drops. How it drops totally depends on the person.

Therefore, I no longer have that superficial mindset that caters to just what I see or am presented with. The life lesson says, we hope for the best and we adjust ourselves for any challenges that come our way. However, the young man did ask for prayer, which means to me he knows who has the solution to all of his problems. Awareness is an openness that invites in many components to be considered to come to a resolve. And, oftentimes, we may be in need of change and only God can mold mankind.

Some things may not be the intent of the heart but attributed to a disposition of a biological or genetic makeup. Whether it’s a physical or mental stronghold, as we are made aware of certain characteristics brought to the surface, the Holy Spirit molds us by purging away those things that aren’t of the gospel character. As well, some things come to build character through the process. Therefore, what seems apparent and defined with our finite minds and interpretational meaning can be the farthest from the truth. But it’s for our betterment not to detain or destroy life.

“And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” — 2 Corinthians 12: 7-9

As the thorn in the Apostle Paul’s flesh, God’s grace is sufficient for you. Trust in His plan for your life that He’s had before the foundation of the world, which is your great purpose.

No matter what life throws at us at uneven times, we are to understand as Christians that we don’t have to bear it alone. Jesus encourages us, “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” — Matthew 11:28-30 

As perceptions may change, may we always perceive to have hope in Jesus Christ. This is the rhythm of the gospel character and the sound of the word of God exemplified in your life.

Pamela Young is a native of Goldsboro, a 1990 graduate of Goldsboro High School and the author of two books. Share your thoughts and ideas about the column with Pamela at